To begin with, I actually really like what I have read so far of the namesake. I know a little too much about Ashima, yet I feel a sense of empathy. We all experience those situations where we feel helplessly alone, or out of our comfort zone. Ashima just is dealing with that on a much larger scale.
Much of Ashima's loneliness stems from the extreme differences between American culture and Indian culture. Even her marriage is completely different than anything we would expect in the U.S. Her husband was a suitor who visits her house one day, and then "one week later the [wedding] invitations were printed" (Lahiri 9). I mean how crazy is that? However, to Ashima, it is completely normal. Also in the hospital, she hears a man say, "I love you" to his wife, and all she can think is, "words [she] has neither heard nor expects to hear from her own husband" (3). Her reaction further shows the difference in American and Indian cultures. We are so used to hearing people express their love publically, like on Valetine's Day or through social media, that we forget in some cultures, feelings are often harbored rather than expressed. American's fear what we don't know, so everything has to be made public.
Additionally, Indian traditions differ from American traditions. Ashima is forced to face a
clash of traditions at the hospital when naming her new baby boy. While the doctor suggests naming her son after a family member when Ashima and her husband fail to receive the letter from her grandmother, "[the] tradition doesn't exist for Bengalis, naming a song after a father or grandfather, a daughter after mother or grandmother. This sign of respect in America and Europe, this symbol of heritage and lineage, would be ridiculed in India" (28). Even the small differences in traditions make Ashima feel like an outcast and long for her homeland where everything is familiar.
After reading the two chapters, my question is will Ashima's baby boy face this culture clash growing up? Will he be stuck between making his parents happy by embracing his Indian heritage, and trying to fit in as an American?
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